How did you learn about sex? Was it from your parents? Was it from your big sister or brother? Did you learn in your tenth grade biology class? Or, did you seek out or stumble upon your dad’s porn magazines or tapes or did you sneak into an “adult’s only” website?
I don’t know about you but my first introduction to the issue of anything remotely resembling sex was in my fifth grade class. All of the boys were sent out to the playground, and all the girls got to see a somewhat grainy reel-to-reel tape from the Modess™ company addressing the “mysteries of menstruation.” Actually, my mother sent off for the tape at my request and got my teacher to show it. My mother was pretty progressive like that, as long as someone else was doing the explaining.
The impetus for asking about menstruation followed the terror in my heart as I heard the blood-curdling scream of one of my fellow fifth graders. When she looked down and saw the red stain on her clothes (after having it pointed out by one of the boys in the class) she screamed to high heaven – either from fear or shame. It really didn’t matter. It scared me nearly to death!
The point was that no one had told her, or any of us, that the monthly “curse” was a part of the reality of pending womanhood. So, if we were not told about a natural and typically inevitable occurrence like the menstrual cycle, you know that NO ONE was going to talk about sex!
Please help me out by letting me know how you learned about sex. Also, watch for frequent blog posts that address how to learn about living and loving, and about ways to have a fulfilling sex life regardless of your age. Stay tuned …